Disclaimer: This is my opinion. You do not have to agree with it but please respect that I have a right to my thoughts and feelings. If I’m wrong by all means feel free to correct me but do it respectfully.
So I felt that it’s time for me to speak out about some things. I am tired of reading in the news feed of my internet browser that we are now punishing people for things they did 15-20 years ago. It may be an unpopular opinion but it’s how I feel.
I’m not saying that it’s okay to commit sexual assault or harassment by any means. It’s not okay to abuse or harass anyone whether you’re a male or female because it does happen to all genders. We need to stop thinking of sexual harassment as something that only happens male to female because it happens female to male, male to male, female to female. It’s not gender specific. What about all those times male singers have been touched by female fans at a concert…isn’t that sexual harassment especially if they’re grabbing at their private parts? I think yes. If it’s not okay when it’s done to us as women than it is not okay when we do it to males either.
We have all been there. We’ve all had someone make an inappropriate comment towards us at least once in our lives. Maybe we also done it ourselves. Usually more than once. I agree that we need to all stop thinking like it’s okay to just say things because it isn’t. Now more than ever we need to realize that what we say has consequences. I also agree that in some ways we need to stop and think is this person still behaving like that? Yes it is so important to speak up and I absolutely would never tell someone to stay silent. However I think that we as a society also need to take into account if that person has changed their ways and is now a better person.
I agree that if a person is continuing to act inappropriately then by all means yes they should deal with the consequences of losing their jobs and their money. Heck even their fame because they’re clearly not a good person. I don’t agree with people who are being ostracized for something that happened 20 years ago when they have definitely proven that they changed and are a different person today than they were then. That’s where forgiveness comes into play. It’s one of the hardest things we are taught in our Christian faith to forgive even when we’ve been deeply hurt.
I do not agree with rape and I never will. It’s not okay to do that to someone and it should never be accepted as normal. There is a fine line between sexual harassment and rape and I think that line has become blurred recently. There’s also a difference if someone inappropriately touched you or if someone raped you. If you rape someone and it comes out 10 years later than I absolutely feel like you should deal with the consequences but if you made an inappropriate comment to them in the past I don’t think that deserves them losing their career over it, unless it’s a repeated thing that they’ve done many times in the past to different people. In order to be legally classified as rape there has to have been forceful penetration. So we just have to remember that fact before just crying rape.
Now onto another hot topic that just happened in the last few days. As a huge fan of the MCU I was shocked when James Gunn was fired from Marvel for comments that he made on his twitter years ago. Do I think that offensive comments of any kind should be tolerated…absolutely not but I think we need to give people the benefit of a doubt. I think it’s unfair to just fire someone because they made some mistakes years ago with what they said. It goes back to what I said earlier stop and think is this still happening or has that person learned from their mistake and changed? It’s not as if he was Rosanne and his comments were happening in the present time of him being involved in these films.
Comedic humor has long been a hot button and in today’s climate it is even more apparent. People need to be ever aware of what they are saying, where they are saying it, and who could be hearing it or seeing it. There’s a lot of comedians I won’t even watch because I find their kind of humor entirely offensive. I agree with free speech and it’s allowed them to build their careers but at what point is a line being crossed that shouldn’t be? There are just certain topics that should never be joked about regardless of if you call it comedic humor or not.
We have a lot of growing up to do as a society before real change is going to happen. That’s just a fact. We need to remember that this country was founded on a bunch of immigrants so we should be accepting to that fact. We are none of us perfect. We’ve all made mistakes and we learn from them. We’ve all done or said something that probably offended someone else at one point in our lives. We are not born to be perfect it’s why we are taught to learn to forgive.