The title says it all. It is time to put ourselves first. So many of us put our jobs, our friends, our families above our own happiness. How can you really understand what it’s like to be happy if you don’t do things for yourself that make you happy. I’m not saying that we need to be selfish because we don’t. I am simply saying that sometimes we need to take a step back and worry about ourselves first.
I know I struggle with this topic a lot. I’m used to always putting myself dead last. I worry about making sure everyone else is okay to the point that it ads extra stress on myself. That is not healthy to do. You should never be dead last in your own life. You should be first.
It’s easy for people when it comes to work work to put work first and become a workaholic. That is not good either. Your job should not impact your state of mind so much that it becomes your entire life. A job should not cause you to have no social life. It shouldn’t cause you to not be able to go out and enjoy life now and then. If you are stuck in that position maybe it’s time to consider a change.
I’m slowly learning how to take a step back and put myself first. Sometimes I still catch myself going back to that “well I won’t do that because I want them to be happy” place. I need to learn to be in a place of will this help me? Will this make things easier for me? Will this make me happy? I need to base my decisions in my personal life off of what is going to be the best thing for me not for anyone else. My work life I need to base them off of what’s best for my job and for me.
This is probably also why I don’t have time or want to make time to find a boyfriend. I don’t want to spend my days right now having just another thing to worry about. I have enough things that I worry about unnecessarily. I also am just in a good place with my independence right now and I’m not ready to give that up yet. Haha!
There is a movie I watch quite often…and by often I mean once a week, called the Holiday. There’s a scene in the movie where two characters are talking and one of them tells the other she is behaving like the best friend and not the leading lady. Her response is “you’re so right. You’re supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god’s sake.” So that’s what I’m trying to do. I’m trying to be the leading lady in my own life story. You all should be trying to do the same thing. Be the leading lady or man in your own story not the supporting cast.